We live in a world where science is doing miracles, people are doing extraordinary and nature is doing incredible things, well nature has always done incredible things since the beginning.
But still a lot of evil practices prevail in the world. The most traumatising fact about these practices is that they are not practices anymore , they have become our life styles , they have become us.
One such practice is Dowry.
” A dowry is a transfer of parental property at the marriage of a daughter. Dowry contrasts with the related concepts of bride price and dower “
But according to me DOWRY only means a system to destroy marriages.
Well, there are two type of people in INDIA , one who demand for DOWRY and one who don’t demand for dowry. Right ?
As I said , dowry is no more a practice , it has got so much into our lives that it has become us.
So whether you demand it or not , still its in the practice. In India , we see and attend a lot of marriages and we often see in our family, how ceremonies are done and a lot of cash and other expensive gifts are given to the bridegroom and to his family members.
Because it is how we celebrate the marriage and ceremonies.
People who demand for dowry are the worst, they harass the bride sexually, mentally, physically and torture her to bring money, expensive gifts, property and valuables from her family for them.
One woman dies every hour due to dowry related reasons on an average in the country, which has seen a steady rise in such cases between 2007 and 2011, according to official data.
National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) figures state that 8,233 dowry deaths were reported in 2012 from various states. The statistics work out to one death per hour.
The number of deaths under this category of crime against women were 8,618 in 2011 but the overall conviction rate was 35.8 per cent, slightly above the 32 per cent conviction rate recorded in the latest data for 2012.
The NCRB statistics show that 91,202 dowry deaths were reported in the country from January 1, 2001 to December 31 2012.
A State wise break-up provided in the statistics show that the highest incidence of dowry deaths was in Uttar Pradesh and Bihar. During the period, 23,824 dowry deaths were reported in U.P. and 19,702 sent for trial. In Bihar 13,548 cases were reported during the period and 9,984 sent for trial.
In general, the custom of dowry imposes a financial burden upon families with daughters that can be especially heavy when the family has few or no sons who might themselves attract wives with dowries.Dowry had disappeared from most of Europe by the beginning of the twentieth century, but remains a common practice in south Asia, specially India.
In India, marriage is a bond between two families , not just two souls. Thats what we have heard and we believe, WRONG !
A marriage is supposed to be a bond between two souls only. But due to socio-cultural reasons we are forced to think that way. We often seek the marriage to happen between the same status.
Financially, socially and even CASTE !
But seriously , CASTE ? Why people are so bothered about caste or money ! This is why Inter caste marriages in most parts of the India is still a dream. Such a hypocrite society to live in.
We see a lot of politicians speaking about poverty, development, security. But why no one is talking about dowry. We talk about educating people , as education is the key to eliminate and eradicate every demonic practices.
But mostly the educated people are concerned about their social status. This is the segment of the society which doesn’t think about taking dowry but still it is practiced.
Why every parent of a daughter thinks about marriage as a burden to their pockets , why it is always a concern to think about getting a lot of things done in a marriage to match the status of others in the society.
All the expenses of the marriage and its functions should be take care of by the 2 partners. They are getting married , they must do it, no one else. Spend and make arrangements according to your pocket and savings. You don’t need to show others how was your marriage. Its is not theirs , but yours. The closed friends and family members must be a part of it , but the families shouldn’t be forced to bear any financial obligations.
The marriage is for getting united , not to show people that you have money or you can spend it on your children.
We specially the Males, who are young and educated need to take an oath that we don’t ask from our future wife or her family members to bear any cost of marriage or the ceremonies. You and her will sit, discuss and plan your wedding and only you two will bear the expenses.
Lets not make marriage a business or deal. It is meant to be a sacred way of getting two should united for lifetime.
Say No to Dowry.
Books can be written about dowry; a blog is simply too short. But isn’t it time we got young people angry again? Most of the people and social service activists who’ve fought for decades are tired. We need young blood to use the internet to restart the campaigns.
I can only URGE ! The power is in your hands, the change starts with you. YOU ARE THE CHANGE.
When you will become a change , you will change the world for a better place to live in.
Its a long journey but every journey starts with one step.
Aim to Protect your future wife
Act within time and when needed to say no to dowry
Achieve the safety, happiness of your beloved and a prosperous happy married life.
AIM , ACT , ACHIEVE
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The Hypocrite World